When Assisted Suicide Becomes a Viable Option

One of my most controversial opinions is related to the subject of euthanasia. I strongly believe that if all one has to look forward to is a life of pain with no hope of relief (for example: a person riddled with terminal cancer and suffering horrendous pain), one should have the RIGHT to put an end to that pain and suffering in a loving environment–surrounded by family and friends, rather than having no choice other than doing it in a desperately violent way (throwing oneself into incoming traffic, shooting oneself, etc).

HOWEVER, when people are forced to contemplate suicide as a way out of a hopeless situation in which they are given very few options; that’s completely unacceptable. A system that pushes people to those extremes, is a failed system that needs to be dismantled.

The only two things that keep some of us from running our wheelchairs into traffic are 1) the fear of NOT dying! And 2) the fear of injuring and/or potentially killing other people in the process.

The title of this short blog entry pretty much encompasses the spirit of my letter to governor Brown (see below). Any and all help spreading the word is greatly appreciated.

April 13, 2018

Governor Edmund G. Brown
c/o State Capitol, Suite 1173
Sacramento, CA 95814

Dear Governor Brown:

My name is Shannon Nelson. I am a 47 year-old quadriplegic woman living in Emeryville.

I’ve been paralyzed from the chest down since 1995 due to a spinal cord injury caused by a swimming pool accident. I moved (actually escaped) from Maine to New York–after being abandoned in a nursing home by my family at 41 years of age–then from New York to California. I suffer from severe nerve pain and couldn’t handle another brutal New York winter.

I moved here not only because of the warmer weather but also because researching the best places to live as a disabled individual consistently showed California–specifically the Bay Area–as the best option.

After a year and a half of navigating the system, I’m exhausted, disheartened and feeling utterly hopeless. 

Rights on paper alone are useless.

Every single disabled resident of the Bay Area I’ve met so far (except those with ample financial resources), struggles a great deal due to the lack of state resources allocated to their care. Actually, to say that we struggle is a huge understatement. When you start considering assisted suicide as a perfectly viable option, you have to pause and question not your own sanity but that of the people in charge of making decisions that directly (and negatively) affect the most vulnerable.

I’m sure you receive hundreds, probably thousands, of letters from distraught marginalized Californians begging for their fair share of the pie; therefore, I’m not delusional enough to expect my little letter to educate you about our plight and make you change policies to help us.

The reason for this letter is simply to document our struggle and hopefully educate our fellow Americans about what we have to go through. If enough people join our cause, maybe, just maybe, we will get people in charge of writing legislation to listen. This is why I decided a good first step would be to contact those people.

Most disabled people I know, myself included, have made peace with our disabilities to varying degrees; however, when we struggle–for example–to find caregivers willing to work for the starvation wages that the state of California pays, we feel utterly helpless, more so than by the fact that we are not able-bodied.

In addition to struggling to find and keep reliable caregivers willing to work for such low wages, many of us also have to deal with the never-ending, ever worsening lack of affordable housing. As I’m sure you know, it has now reached a crisis level.

I am on a wait list to get all of the hours of care I need as well as for affordable housing; however these wait lists are unbelievably long (years!) I recently had a severe medical emergency that caused me to spend five days in the ICU at Alta Bates Medical Center–which led me to the realization that I might actually die while waiting.

When I read an article about you, sir, boasting about the state’s budget surplus, the first thought that came to my mind was “at whose expense?”

Years from now, when you’ve retired from public office and are asked to assess your time as governor, will you think about all of the Californians that were left behind?

The “greatest country in the world” does not treat its most vulnerable citizens with dignity. That, I believe, is a tragedy.


Shannon Nelson

Rights On Paper Alone Are Utterly Useless

Time flies! I cannot believe it’s been over four years since I created this blog, made one entry and forgot about it, until recently.

The blog entry below is from October 11, 2013, while I was living in a shelter for disabled victims of abuse in New York City after literally escaping from a nursing home I had been dumped into (in Maine) at 41 years of age.

Since then, I’ve had a brush with death, made peace with my estranged mother, lost her to cancer and moved to the San Francisco Bay Area (where I recently had another close encounter with death).

The incredibly overrated Bay Area is one of the biggest disappointments I’ve ever experienced. I refer to it as The Gentrification-On-Steroids Area.

Rights on paper alone make for great public relations, but they are utterly useless.

So, to go back to the beginning of this journey: I escaped from a nursing home in the middle of the night back in September of 2012, with nothing but two boxes of medical supplies and some clothes, and made my way to New York City (with the help of a couple of very kind friends), nearly died from a bone infection while in New York, moved to the Bay Area (where I recently spent 5 days in the ICU with a relentless respiratory infection), and here I am, in what was supposed to be the Promised Land for The Disabled, feeling shattered with hopelessness. Needless to say, this is not what I had envisioned…

Wait lists for affordable housing and personalized attendant care are so long I have become convinced that I will likely die waiting for these basic necessities.

So, I thought, why not renew my efforts to reach out and educate my fellow Americans, especially those naive enough to call this “the greatest country in the world”, about the plight of the disabled community? It never ceases to amaze me how little people know about what we have to go through simply for what most people take for granted. Unless you yourself are disabled or have disabled relatives or close friends, you probably have no idea about the incredibly challenging, sometimes downright hellish, conditions we are made to endure.

I can almost hear a conservative and/or libertarian minded person reading this and thinking “what an entitled little thing that Shannon is! What makes her believe that we should provide for her needs?” And my reply to that person would be “I did NOT choose to become disabled. I was working full-time, having landed my dream job after putting myself through dental school by waitressing. I was contributing to the system and living a very active life; until the day I dove into a swimming pool and broke my neck. As a civilized nation, we should take care of those who cannot take care of themselves: namely children, the elderly and the disabled. As a taxpayer, I never complained about my tax dollars going to schools even though I had no children. It’s what civilized societies do.”

And while that’s a long answer, I might have to add “do you have any idea how much this country spends on what it calls defense (military) spending, a huge chunk of which is absolutely wasteful and unnecessary? If a SLIVER–a tiny sliver–of those resources were allocated to taking care of those in need we would have a much more fair and just society. We might actually be able to earn the right to call ourselves ‘the greatest nation on the planet’.”

But what do I know? I only speak from, you know, personal experience.